HTML clipboardWorried that the 27-year-old man making $70,000 as profiled on an online
dating service isn't so young or taking home that much cash?
Chances are he's telling the truth if the site is geared toward long-term
relationships.
But if he's lying, he's probably a people pleaser -- the type of person who'd
try to put himself in the best light even if you'd found him offline first,
according to a University of Kansas researcher.
In professor Jeffrey Hall's survey of 5,020 men and women who belonged to an
undisclosed Internet dating site, most respondents indicated they wouldn't lie.
But those saying they were most likely to lie generally gave answers to other
questions indicating they were people pleasers, or "high self-monitors."
Such people have an acute sense of what others like and control their own
behavior accordingly for social ends. Because they want to be liked and fit in,
these people, whether online or off, may lie about weight, age, income and
interests, Hall said.
"The type of people who misrepresented themselves online is the same type of
people who do so face-to-face," Hall, an assistant professor of communication
studies and the study's lead author, said by phone Thursday.
In the study, published in the February issue of the Journal of Social and
Personal Relationships, respondents were asked to rate on a 10-point scale the
likelihood that they would misrepresent their education, income, relationship
goals, personal interests, weight and age to a potential date online. An answer
of 1 indicated "not at all likely;" a 10 indicated "very likely."
"On average, answers were close to around 2 for the most part," Hall said.
Men indicated they were more likely than women to lie in every category
except weight, according to the study.
However, the differences between men and women were small, Hall said. For
example, men led women 2.01 to 1.83 when it came to lying about education and
income. Women led men 3.24 to 2.37 in lying about weight.
The strongest predictor of lying wasn't gender, but high self-monitoring,
Hall said.
"Personality makes much more of a difference in how much people lie," he said.
Hall wouldn't name the dating site to which the respondents belonged, but he
said that people interested in long-term relationships "tend to be the users
that are attracted to this site" and that the site didn't commission the study.
Hall said it added to other research showing that -- particularly for people
looking for long-term relationships -- the amount of lying is usually small,
because people want an anticipated face-to-face meeting to go well.
"Online daters shouldn't be concerned that most people are presenting a false
impression of themselves," Hall said in a news release before Thursday's phone
interview. "What influences face-to-face dating influences the online world, too."
The study also was authored by professors Namkee Park of
the University of Oklahoma, Hayeon Song of the University of Wisconsin at
Milwaukee and Michael Cody of the University of Southern California.
